A couple of days ago, I went to the library with my two children for the nursery rhyme session. There were many mothers with toddlers there, but one, in particular, caught my attention. She was on the floor with her son, reading a book in their native language. At some point, she sat the boy on her lap, pulled up her shirt, started nursing him, and continued reading as if it were the most natural thing in the world. This mom’s actions reminded me of the importance of normalising breastfeeding, regardless of child’s age.
The Struggle with Societal Norms
I was sitting there with a 2.5 year-old and a baby, feeling ashamed. Ashamed for allowing society to mold me. Ashamed for every time I had felt embarrassed for breastfeeding a toddler in public. Ashamed for every time I bowed my head when my parents, my in-laws, and even other mom friends told me my eldest was too big to be nursed.
Instead of embracing my choices, I hid them. I chose to keep the fact that I tandem-nursed a secret. Watching that mother, reminded me how much I had internalised societal judgments. Why do mothers who breastfeed older children face criticism while those who bottle-feed feel no shame? Isn’t the goal the same—healthy, nourished children?
A Personal Story of Shame and Acceptance
I am not here to tell mothers how long they should nurse their kids. That choice is deeply personal. I also know that tandem-feeding my sons doesn’t make me a better parent. But this experience encouraged me to reflect and think outside the box.
With my firstborn, we faced numerous nursing challenges. I had no idea I would breastfeed as long as I did. For me, breastfeeding became a way to bond with my sons and even helped them bond with each other. Beyond the nutritional benefits, nursing has been my go-to method to soothe and comfort my children. I know a day will come when they no longer need it, but until then, I don’t want them to feel there’s something wrong with wanting to nurse.
Empowering Mothers: Normalising Breastfeeding Matters
If we want a change, we must take steps to normalise breastfeeding. There are maybe more mothers like me than I realise—women who want to feed their children naturally but feel pressured not to. We can change this narrative by standing proud and supporting each other.
As Breastfeeding Week comes to an end, let’s take this as an opportunity for reflection and action. If you are a breastfeeding mom, be proud! Don’t hide. Take your boob out and nurse your child. Send a picture to another mom and share words of encouragement. Let’s uplift one another and create a supportive community.
A Call to Action for Breastfeeding Moms
Before I hit the publish button, I want to acknowledge the risks of sharing this story. I know I’m exposing myself to potential criticism and judgment. But I’m ready for it. I refuse to feel ashamed any longer.
Together, we can challenge societal norms and normalise breastfeeding. It starts with small steps, like sharing our stories and supporting other mothers. On that note, I leave you with a video that speaks volumes about the kind of society we live in and the change we can create together.
To all the moms out there: be proud, be bold, and embrace your journey!